I read about love bombing a few years ago and thought it was an interesting idea, but not one I'd ever want or need to employ. That was before my Little Mate's development started its own little unique course, and before my Big Boy's behaviours became noticeably more challenging than those of his peers as well. The thing I find hardest at the moment is spending time with my Big Girl. She is the easy child you see. She's not got the behavioral issues of her brother and she isn't the toddler. She loves school, she helps out as much as any seven year old is inclined to do and she is very independent. In an ideal world it would be possible to find that one on one time with her every day, but our world is far from ideal right now. So during the holidays we had a girl day. A love bomb day if you will. The Big Boy was with my parents and the little two at child care, and the day was ours to do as she pleased. Admittedly I talked her into going for a walk first, it was a stunning day and it gave us an opportunity to enjoy the wildlife around the lake and just chat about everything.
We had lunch at the Pancake Kitchen where she was able to choose whatever she wanted.
She really wanted to buy a new dress, so we headed to Myer (which I would never brave with the other kids!). We spent ages looking at the beautiful clothes and she insisted on trying on four all by herself. She is growing up so fast, sometimes I'm afraid I will miss it in the day to day busy-ness of our household. She decided on her favourite and proudly carried the bag while we stopped to look at nail polish. We'd planned on getting pedicures but her legs aren't quite long enough for the special chairs yet so we made do DIY style.
It was just so lovely to spend the day with her and not have to say 'no' to everything because I'd need to factor in three other kids. She's such a sweet girl, and so funny too. It gave us a chance to reconnect in a way that has been missing of late, and I'm so glad we did it. Do you have dates with your children? How do you balance your time with them?